My friends are ridiculous!
My friends are ridiculous!
“Kayla, you need to be endearing.”
This is what I heard on a near daily basis from my mother growing up. I was one of those that prided myself on being “right” and not really caring if I was kind. So I had a tendency to be a self-righteous jerk very often. I have spent several conversations as an adult apologizing for that attribute to those that had the misfortune of being in the wrong place at the wrong time and, therefore, becoming the victims of my immaturity. Because that’s what it is… absolute immaturity and selfishness.
I still have issues with this. Taming my tongue is a daily struggle, but I’m getting better. I find that the less I talk in general unless I’m prayed up, the better of a person I tend to be. It’s not even that what I’m thinking (and keeping myself from saying) is incredibly witty, or overly intelligent, but I find my mind very often wants to pounce on those moments when someone is incorrect and make sure they know that they are incorrect. I know! I’m horrible! How arrogant!!But you know what keeps you humble?
THESE GIRLS! 🙂
These ladies have been such an encouragement every week. Kimberly has the absolute sweetest spirit of anyone you’ve ever met…genuine kindness. Monek with her desire to understand and not accept things at face value, but grow to deeper understanding. Charis with her whiteboard illustrations! ha And her strength and understanding of grace. Allison who always challenges me to know the text and context… don’t be a lazy believer! Janean who challenges me to be present with my kids as she is, and to always be thinking for myself. Chloe who has taught me about the power and courage of vulnerability and convicted me of making sure we are always a safe place for each other. And Leah. I love her word, “kin”. My wise sister who teaches me that words can be a balm. When she speaks, listen to her.
This group has been one of the best examples of what the church family can be. A group of imperfect people, striving together toward Christlikeness. I still struggle with my tongue, but seeing the beauty in the diversity in how we all think and how we all approach our relationships with God has taught me… we need to be striving to push each other on! We often hear that women are “catty” to each other. Don’t cheat each other in this way! We don’t get farther by finding joy in pulling people back… that’s what a 2-year-old does! A mature believer finds joy in the wisdom of others so that they can LEARN. They don’t find their joy in the ignorance of others so they can TEACH. These women teach me. Love you, girls!
If you can AT ALL– please do yourself a favor and find “your girls”. I love mine.
What are some of the best “girl days” or “girl trips” you’ve taken with your girls? I’m turning 30 this year and need some good ideas! Let me know in the comments below!
So my girlfriends decided to “roast” me as my big send off! They are all different “versions of Kayla” ha. Don’t be fooled…they really love me.